Making it legal

22 Jul

D and I celebrated our 6 year anniversary this past April, April 27th to be exact.  This is the day we celebrate every year.  We have always considered ourselves “married” in all the ways we could be married with the exception of having a legal marriage license to prove it.  We exchanged rings and make a commitment to each other years ago.  Since that day we have continued on with our lives as a married couple in every way possible.  I took her last name, we planned a family, we make financial decisions together, and so on.  As any married couple we have our ups and downs and we get through them as a couple.

In our eyes we have been married for 6 years.  We talked about getting married many times and we just didn’t see a huge need to go out and get married just to have a legal piece of paper to tell us we are married, especially considering that it would not change a thing in the state we live in.  We still would not be considered married in Florida.  We didn’t and don’t need a piece of paper to tell us we were married.  We are married.


Now don’t get me wrong, would I like to have a piece of paper to show I married the woman that I love and that our daughters mommies are married?  Of course I would!  I would also like it to be legal in my home state, have all the same rights as straight couples, and I would like to win the lotto while I am at it.

Okay back to reality now.

I feel with DOMA being struck down that this was a big step in the right direction.  I also feel that there is so much confusion over what is going to happen in the coming months and years that it might not be as cut and dry as people think it will be.  I also feel that many states are going to have many law suits brought against them to fight the unfair laws banning gay marriages in other states.  I would love to see Florida be one of those states and I hope one day it will be legal here.  I also know this is a process and it’s not going to happen overnight.

D and I have discussed getting married now that DOMA was struck down.  We really don’t know how this will affect us in the long run with all the laws but the mere fact that we would be able to file taxes together would be great.  Will this happen this year?  I am not holding my breath.  They are saying that taxes will still be set on the state you live in.  Well Florida has no state tax so the only taxes we pay are federal.  So we “should” be able to file federal taxes together if we are legally married.  Again no one is 100% sure how that is all going to play out but I it happens to be that way I would like to take advantage of it and be able to file taxes together and have all the additional federal benefits that come with it.

So after long talks about it all we have decided to go ahead and make it legal!  Next year April 27th falls on a Sunday.  This will be our 7 year anniversary and we felt that it would be perfect for us to go and get married on that day.  That is one way to cure the 7 year itch.  LOL  I also like the fact that our anniversary will always be the same date as it was from day 1.

So that is the plan!  We will be going to New York and getting married in a small elopement ceremony on April 27, 2014.  We will then come back to Florida and have our reception with all of our family and friends the following weekend.  I have to admit that I am actually very excited about it all.  We have started planning things out already and while it is exciting it is quite overwhelming.  Good thing we have 9 months to plan it out.  🙂



Posted by on July 22, 2013 in Wedding


9 responses to “Making it legal

  1. Rick Shuster

    July 22, 2013 at 12:54 pm

    Congratulations in-advance! Excited for y’all! 😀
    -Brother Rus

  2. Jenn

    July 22, 2013 at 1:07 pm

    Love this! What a great idea to have it on the same date 🙂

  3. KJ and the Kids

    July 22, 2013 at 1:44 pm

    YAY ! I’m so glad she said yes. ha ha That’s awesome.
    We will also do it on the same date… to not confuse either of our feeble minds. 🙂

  4. Terry

    July 22, 2013 at 6:37 pm

    Excellent explanation of the background leading to next year’s wedding in New York. Very nice of you to share this part of your life with us. You have a lot of fans – with or without a marriage license. Wishing you a safe and joyous visit to New York! With lots of love…

  5. AmandaRaye

    July 22, 2013 at 10:31 pm

    Congrats….we were actually just married it NY today! We live in PA tho so still have same concerns you guys do!

    • Two Moms

      July 23, 2013 at 7:17 am

      Ohh Congrats! That is awesome.

  6. portia weiss

    July 23, 2013 at 5:51 pm

    I am so very thrilled for the both of you! Congrats to you both and to your sweet little girl. What celebration you will have with her as the flower girl, keep me posted on celebrations to celebrate your new wedded bliss!

  7. Fell826

    July 28, 2013 at 4:13 pm

    Congrats!! I live in Florida and did not realize that was an option.. So if we get legally married somewhere else and come back to FL we can file our taxes together.. Even though its not legal here??

    • Two Moms

      July 28, 2013 at 6:26 pm

      They are still trying to work out all the details so there is no clear “yes” just yet. But ultimately Yes that is the way it should work. It is not there yet and it may take many more months before they have it figured out but I am betting that it will happen sooner than later and we are planning on taking advantage of filing taxes together as soon as we can.


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